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Q: I think my child could really benefit from a social environment, but I’m worried about the transition from home to school. How will teachers help my child if she has a hard time separating from me? How can I help my child?
A: Initial separation anxiety is not uncommon. Creating the habit of going to school and good separation routines will help your child. Every morning we open at 8:30, but we have free play time until 9:30, which can give families time for a slow goodbye. If you would like to stay later than this, you may. However, be aware that with circle time, transitions to rest room and going outside, there may not be another good time to say goodbye until 10:15 or even later. This is because it is difficult for children to say goodbye during transition time.
At the beginning of the year, one family used the technique of staying for a good bit of the day, and then saying goodbye earlier and earlier. This worked for them. During the parent’s stay, the parent would sometimes leave the classroom for a short period of time, to go to the bathroom/get something from the car/ return books to the library, and then come back. He would tell his child what he was going to do, and she soon saw that she could trust him to return when he said he was going to. Now she is sometimes so busy playing that he can hardly capture her attention to let her know that he is leaving.
Another good strategy is to make a plan with your child and follow through on it. I.E. “I can play two puzzles with you and then I will go.” It can be very hard for parents to see their child upset, but it is best to show your child that you feel positive about his abilities to gain in independence and have fun at school. Even if you feel sad, you should model calmness for your child when saying goodbye. A couple of children at school keep pictures of their parents in their cubbies that they can take out when they need them. Your child can also take a “lovey” to school– and don’t worry, we will never force your child to share her lovey, (though we do ask that loveys be put away if they become a distraction, and also while children are eating).
One thing Mayapple School teachers discourage is leaving while your child is distracted, i.e. “sneaking out.” This does not build long-term trust. We also ask that parents not say things like, “If you don’t like it, then you don’t have to go,” even if that really is the case. When children hear that, then they make up their minds not to like it so they can stay home like they are comfortable with. You may have heard the saying that “It takes 21 days to make a habit.” We ask that you give your child 21 school days to transition. These methods have never failed us!
If you leave and your child is crying or seems not ready to play, there are a variety of methods we use to help increase his comfort. We do not shame your child for crying, (i.e. You’re a big boy, so don’t cry). Instead, we offer hugs, a book, or a windowsill to wave goodbye from as a parent’s car pulls away. We talk about what we will do that day and when mom/dad is coming back. We talk about what mom/dad is doing right then, and how much the student is loved. We encourage children to look at their pictures, hold their loveys, find a comfy corner, or make a picture for mom and dad. We might assign your child a special job, to help them find their place in the classroom. Children will feel comfortable when they have created relationships with teachers and students in the classroom. By offering positive events for your child, we facilitate the growth of these relationships.
Q: Can my child enroll in middle of the school year?
A: Yes! We currently have space in our program for full day or half day students. Get the enrollment process started today!
Q: What is the classroom discipline policy?
A: Teachers use Positive Discipline in the classroom.
- Teachers focus on creating positive relationships with and between students through shared activities and meaningful personal interactions. A strong relationship base gives children incentive to work through problems that come up and helps them feel safe and find their voice in doing so.
- Disruptive classroom behavior, disagreements between peers, and group or individual misguided behaviors will occur each year, and most are normal events. Working through these normal incidents can be used to further children’s social and emotional learning.
- We encourage parents to view misguided behaviors in a calm way. A child’s mistaken behavior is an attempt to satisfy her needs or desires. Though it is not always a straightforward task, it is possible to help her learn to satisfy her needs and desires in a more positive way.
- At all times, the focus is on “problem solving,” which means that the question teachers ask is “How can we help solve this problem?” not “How can I best punish this child?” The answer to that question may be different for each child or incident. Teachers have used small and whole group role playing, books, puppets, apology of action (where students check on each other and see what they can do to make the injured party feel better– sometimes this is a hug, sometimes saying “sorry,” other times agreeing to change future behavior), hugs, and discussion with and without peers to help children solve problems. “Quiet cushions” are available to children who need physical space apart from others while processing emotions, as well as one-on-one walks or “bathroom breaks” with teachers.We do not use a reward/punishment system such as sticker charts, timed time out, red/yellow/green cards, etc. Problem solving techniques may be done before (pre-emptive), during, or after (process) problem experiences.
- If your child comes to you with a problem that he says has not been addressed at school, and it would be beneficial to do so, please inform teachers of your child’s report. It is possible that teachers may miss events or nuances of children’s experiences, and important incidents can be reopened for children as needed.
Q: My daughter uses the toilet at home, but still needs assistance in the bathroom. Can she still attend The Mayapple School?
A: Teachers are available to help as children need, from helping take off/ put on clothing, wash hands, and reminding children to flush the toilet, wipe properly, etc. If your child does not need help, we can also respect her desire for privacy as well.
Q: I see that you serve a mid-morning snack. My child has a food allergy/sensitivity. Can you accommodate her needs?
A: In many cases, we can provide an alternate snack for your child, such as vegetarian, gluten free, dairy free, etc. If your child has many allergies, we may ask that you provide a snack for your child. We do not allow children to share food. Teachers eat snack and lunch with the children and are aware of children’s meal time and snack time behaviors. We feel confident in our abilities to enforce a no-sharing rule through simple, truthful explanations and reminders as needed. If your child has an extreme allergy where the food item needs to be banned from the classroom, (such as peanuts), we can request that no parents not pack that type of food for their child. However, no common allergens are regularly banned from the classroom unless a specific child is in need of that policy.
Q: I like the amount of time you spend outside, but I’m also nervous about it. What if my child is too cold and miserable to play? What if she doesn’t like the rain, or wind, or snow? Do you have any clothing recommendations for me that will help?
A: Your child can be warm and happy outside. You can help your child get used to different types of weather by spending time, appropriately dressed, outside every day. When we keep children inside in all but the best weather, we undermine children’s resiliency and prevent the growth of children’s hardiness and stamina.
Teachers firmly believe that all children can be warm and happy outside, yet we know that without the proper preparation, the opposite can also be true. We keep a close eye on all children. If your child complains of or show signs of being cold, we make immediate efforts to warm your child. We will also let you know so that we can work on a plan to ensure her warmth in the future. In some outdoor weather, children cannot stay warm indefinitely; on those days, we talk to children about participating in active play and go inside when stamina limits will soon be reached. Last school year, our shortest outdoor play period has been 40 minutes, but it could be much shorter depending on the weather.
The Mayapple School can be appropriate for children who are small or thin for their age, but your child should at least be wearing size 2T clothing before you expect her to join in. Such children may need to wear specific brands or items of clothing that provide a lot of warmth for their weight and bulk. Outfitting your preschooler appropriately may be costly if you do not plan ahead. Please read the blog post about outdoor clothing for more information.